To feel love, to live in love, is Christ’s commandment for our lives. We must love. Yet what is love? Is it finding someone special? Is it finding someone beautiful? Is it wanting to be near someone?
And what is it to love? To give affection, welcome, words of comfort? To rejoice, to laugh, to connect? To admire, to smile, to be moved? To desire, to kiss, to touch? To listen, to understand, to be present? To give gifts, to praise, to express oneself? To lighten burdens, to lessen pain, acts of service?
Jesus demonstrated one of the rarest forms of love: that of giving Himself for the other. If this is one of the rarest, it is also one of the highest, because He loved the world in such a way that He gave Himself to save us.
Love can be expressed in many ways: with joy, with affection, with presence, and with service. But the outward is still an imperfect expression of love. Love is much more than its expression. Love is all of this and much more; above all, love is something that is felt in the heart. What is outside does not matter if the intentions are obscure; what always matters is what is being felt within us. In all these cases, love is the feeling that floods our heart and guides us to act.
What is pure love, what is the love of Christ?
Love is when we feel another person to be important; love is when we value someone, not for the outward, but for their essence. Love is to give importance, to feel someone as important, to give worth, to value.
When we finally understand all this, we understand that the greatest commandment, “To love God above all things,” is to value, to give importance to God above all things. As Christ did: to give oneself completely, one’s whole life. Value God to the point that there is nothing more important than Him, not even your own life. It is not enough merely to do, but rather to feel, and, in order to feel, we must value Him above all.